WHAT IS BULLYING?

When someone uses their power to hurt another person’s body, property, or feelings, on purpose.  Bullying can be something that is done repeatedly, or can be a one time occurrence. 

 
by Mckenna, Sophia and Maddie - 5th grade

THE "3 PLAYERS"

 

There are 3 players in a bullying situation:

 Bully - Person who is doing the hurting.
 Victim - Person who’s body, property, or feelings is being hurt on purpose.
 Bystander - People who see or know about the bullying.

*Click on the above links to find more information on being a Bully, Victim or Bystander.
 

4 TYPES/CATEGORIES OF BULLYING BEHAVIOR
 

Verbal -  Name calling, teasing, putting someone down, etc.

Physical  - Hitting, kicking, pushing, etc.

Social -  Excluding, gossiping, spreading rumors, etc.

Cyber -  Hurtful messages on Facebook, sending embarrassing pictures through text message, etc.
  

by Shannon - 5th grade

THE TELLING RULES!

Children often worry that if they tell their teacher, or another adult at school about bullying, that they will be tattling.  This is especially true if a child continues to be bullied and has already gone to the teacher or other adult at school before.  Here are the 3 telling rules to go over with your child to determine if they have information they need to tell someone. 

 

3 Telling Rules (These rules replace tattling)

1. THINK…Did you try to work it out?  Did you use your words?

Tell them to stop
Walk away
Make a joke

IF THEY DON'T STOP, THEN TELL AN ADULT!

2. THINK…Are you being hurt?  Did you try rule #1?

Body
Property
Feelings

TELL AN ADULT WHEN YOU ARE BEING HURT!
 

3. THINK…Is someone else being hurt?  Can you help them try rule #1?
 

HELP THE PERSON BEING HURT, TELL AN ADULT!
 

 

DO YOU KNOW THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN TATTLING AND TELLING?
 

Tattling is when you are trying to get someone in trouble.

Telling is when you or someone else is in trouble and needs your help!

 BULLYING  VS. TEASING  VS. CONFLICT*

Bullying - Based on a power imbalance; intent is to cause psychological or physical harm; usually repeated.

Teasing - Fun, good natured, "give and take" between friends to get both parties to laugh.

Conflict - A struggle, dispute, or misunderstanding between two equal forces.

*Amanda B. Nickerson, PhD  Associate Professor and Director, Alberti Center for the Prevention of Bullying Abuse and School Violence University at Buffalo

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RESOURCES FOR PARENTS

The Parents Guide to Facebook - helpful manual produced by the Connect Safely Organization.

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES
 

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