A BULLY

A Bully is someone that uses their power to hurt another person’s body, property, or feelings on purpose.  It is not accidental.  It can happen over and over again, or can be a one-time occurrence.

by Austin - 5th grade

WHY DO CHILDREN BULLY?

·         They may have been bullied by someone else.

·         Result of low self-esteem.

·         Media influences.

·         In an attempt to get along with a certain crowd.

*www.kids.lovetoknow.com 

 

GENDER DIFFERENCES

Boys

  More direct, physical bullying.

  Bully both boys and girls.

Girls

  More indirect.

  More subtle, hard to detect, and often occurs in groups.

  Tend to target other girls of the same age.

  Cyberbullying is slightly more common than for males.

*Amanda B. Nickerson, PhD  Associate Professor and Director, Alberti Center for the Prevention of Bullying Abuse and School Violence University at Buffalo
 

by Abaigail, Hope and Katy - 5th grade

SOCIETY’S ROLE IN THE GENDER DIFFERENCES

·        Societal beliefs allow for the thought of “boys will be boys.”

·         This then teaches girls to tolerate boys’ bullying.

·        Girls are more likely to be less accepting of girls who bully because they are seen as too aggressive.

*www.education.com

 QUESTION:  What is the most common word that students use to describe a bully?  “Popular”

*Joan Healey, 2006

 

HELP!  I THINK MY CHILD IS A BULLY!

·         Talk to your child…bullies will often try to deny or minimize their behavior.  Hold them accountable!

·         Make it clear that you will not tolerate bullying behavior.

·         Provide non-violent consequences.

·        Increase supervision of the child.

·         Cooperate with the school.

·         Praise efforts to correct the behavior.

·        Do not allow violent media in the home.

·        Make sure the child is not seeing violence among family members.

·         Seek help from school staff- Principal, Social Worker, School Psychologist, Guidance Counselor.

*www.ifcc.on.ca/bully.htm